What Is Love? A Glimpse of Insights by Mwalimu LAKHPIN

Love is the feelings that you never need something or someone of your possession disappear from you. It is specializing an individual or something amongst others of the same nature. Most of the times, it is based on the feeling of pleasure that you empathize the well-being of another and adhere somebody else’s attitudes. The term is commonly and so often used in relationships between men and women. But don’t forget that you can love: a person, food, music, theatre/movies, traveling…and even animals do.

It is an art of preferences i.e. the things that when lost or missed can get you in the situation of despair, where you feel you can even die by that kind of loss. Let’s get back to love between people. What matters is true love than a general or an easy so-called love which is frequently sung in almost the singers and found in them but at the very end of time find it a hurting and disappointing asset that finally every body assumes to never get rid of.

According to Wikipedia, Love is a variety of different feelings, states, and attitudes that ranges from interpersonal affection to pleasure. It can refer to an emotion of a strong attraction and personal attachment.

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SHIHOF: Shinning Hope Family

A group of singers in the Rwanda Anglican Students Association (RASA) at the University of Rwanda-College of Education (Former Kigali Institute of Education) which mainly sung in English. The name clarifies what before getting together on singing, the group was entitled. Members were friends (brothers and sisters) referred to the fundamental principles of the internal regulations.

Helping one another, praying and cooperating to making difference in applying Godly livelihood. It started in the year 2008 by the initiative of some students who by that time were passionate to worshiping, praising God through English language as the medium of instruction. Three members began the group. It is normal to have difficulties in the commencement but by God’s grace, the family went on until 2017 when the College of Education moved to the Eastern Province of Rwanda in Rukara area.

As long as it continued to participate in the fellowships, people started to call them a choir which was not bad at the moment and of course it was one of their major activities since its inauguration. The choir has been known making live performances play-backing popular songs of other known gospel artists like Don Moen and others but talented songwriters began to write and Shinning Hope commenced to sing songs written by its own members from 2012. Among of them, we can cite: 

 -Right sibling

-What a name

-Sing a new song

-Your heaven,....

To each academic year’s end, they held a special closing party though some others were held in the middle of semesters like welcoming new comers and other improvised sharings within its members. Rehearsal days were: 

-          Thursday: 9:00PM-10:00PM

-          Saturday: 7:00PM-9:00PM

-          Wednesday: Prayer day every week. 

      Something is special that nobody goes out from SHIHOF after graduating, they keep on coming back to pay visits and participating in organized events as the current members. Since the beginning, it has been led by: 

Felix NDASHIMYE: 2008-2010

MABANO Gervais: 2010

Alice UWIZEYIMANA: 2010-2011
Thomas SHYAKA: 2011-2012
Emmanuel MUHIRE: 2012-2013
Emmanuel NGENDAHAYO: 2013-2014
Paul NDIZEYE: 2014-2015
Jacques MUNEZERO: 2015-2016

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How To Make Love While You Are Poor

In these days, there is a myth which says "No money no love" or "When money finishes, love goes away." Most of the people believe in this. Many girls of today are loving boys because of money and once it finishes, they leave. This frightens most of men that there is no love still in this world of today. I do not guarantee that stable love costs a thing or that disappointed love was the result of poverty because we see noble families divorcing.

There is a lot of the ways one can make his love stay longer, stronger and yet he has no odds. It seems hard in the beginning while searching but finally feels sweet. The best of all the weapons is "Truth". Once you fall in love, keep in mind that you are engaging the partner for life and she will be able to investigate you. Don’t lie about yourself. If you are jobless, let her know before you get started. Once progressed, don’t ever make promises that you are unable to fulfill. Do accept what is possible for you to accomplish and what you can afford easily.

1. Know her historical background and the kind of love she needs you to make. If it is not planning for a future family of you too, don’t waste your time there because that requires spending.
2. Don’t cheat and be humble in your every day life
3. Be simple, cheap and don’t panic but with the little you can get, share with her regardless her standard of living. She will find you a fit caring man who can do it even once you get much. But never dilapidate.
4. Don’t hurry up with your tongue, make a slow rhythm and slower reactions
5. Say you will love her in whatever life you can have
6. Miss a visit but never miss a call
7. Don’t talk money a lot. Only be creative thinker always planning on how to get to it
8. Don’t exclude her in your struggles
9. Even though you cannot solve a single problem of hers, listen to her attentively, carefully and comfort her possibly. Emphasize on her sorrows and try to consulate her accordingly.
10. Don’t mix up your problems with hers
11. Be courageous
12. Be smart on your body, in your ideas,…
13. When she makes you angry, don’t blame her saying that she did it to you because you are poor. Fix a problem itself and never look aside.

True love is not a flower that one picks from the garden and after some days gets burnt. It is an incredible heavenly gift that you must treat like you do for your own eye. It is not where you are when she is there too, it is not who you are and what you do, it is who you love and who loves you (Don Williams). The last technique in every fight is "run". Love money if you cannot keep on with your girlfriend. Never tell her all of your plans if you find she is not somehow with you or she is staying with you trickily. Trick a trick to get tricky before you get tricked. Life is money and once you get it, you can design a life of your preference with a woman you wish and even create love. But remember, love never cost a thing!

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Psycho-Social Effects of Poverty

When we try to talk about poverty, we look at it generally around the word. Everything has its own causes and consequences. Now we will look at consequences because commonly the cause will mostly be "lack of money". Money is life. Again, we are not going to talk about women’s poverty because referring to many different cultures, men are the suppliers of their families. A man must build a house, have a plot, feed the family members, pay school fees, pay the dowry, prepare and arrange all the expenses of the wedding ceremony, clothes his wife and kids, take care of the two in-law families,…all in terms of money. So, when money is not there, manhood evaporates. Here are some of the consequences of poverty:

1. Isolation and loneliness: When you're poor, the only place you feel safe and comfortable is when you're alone. You normally don't feel like anyone cares and you think the best solution is trying not to make anyone act like they do. 

2. Lack of confidence: you feel that you are unable to make things run. You don’t feel comfortable wherever you are asked to represent something or raising your ideas.

3. Irresponsibility: You cannot feel responsible in any cause. You can begin pretending that he who can organize things better is not you. You feel you cannot be heard.

4. Fear: you cannot decide to raise your hand in the crowd of people. Towards the authorities, you feel yourself neglected/rejected that nobody needs you that if you stand before them, you can get kicked out. 

5. Indecisiveness: Decision making is a core value of a normal man but the poorest cannot get to it. You always feel guilty even when your partners cheats on you. You can never say No nor Yes whenever you wish since you only think that what counts is shutting up. 

6. Ignorance: A poor person is taken ignorant and they usually embrace it as true. In others, they seem not have valid ideas. Even if they did speak, their words never count. 

7. Humility: Most poor people are humble especially before the rich and this humility is not willingly. It is brought by so many problems and they don't even think they are worth people's time.

8. Slavery: Every body uses you, can spit on you, and insult you until the gives you a little money or a small living allowance. You don’t have your own property; you will always find that some cool rights are not meant for you.

There have been myths that girls love money. Some agree and disagree. However, one of the two sides dominates the other. She doesn’t ask you money and you are happy she is not the kind of girl but if you could count on how much she makes you spend, an idea can get into your mind. When you are able to make every second calls, send her some airtime, paying visit with one another, giving gifts and once she surprises you with a little demand pretending that she did not walk with money and you solve it. She can give you the world. But when you fail the majority of these, she starts hiding you, meeting you when she is angry that you can never have fun, she starts telling you stories of the boys who are trying to love her, some who wanted to have affairs with her, some rich men she refused,…to frighten you and make you decide to never lose her. Even if you can make some arrangements to get her back, don’t think you are making a genuine love like before. My advice is "give up" poor baby.

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